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Unveiling the Reality of : The stigma and shame you feel is real, and it takes a lot of courage to even engage with the subject

That's not healthy. It pains me to write that. One person who knows loneliness well is Craig, 33, a school teacher who lives in London. I just sat by myself in front of the TV. I remember feeling very isolated because I had no one to experience any kind of sexuality with.

I felt like I was completely on my own. At the time, there were no real gay role models except for Graham Norton and Jack from Dawson's Creek —and I certainly didn't identify with him because I wasn't a football player. Looking back at it now, I'm like, "What were they thinking?

Still, even as we celebrate the scale and speed of this change, the rates of depression, loneliness and substance abuse in the gay community remain stuck in the same place they’ve been for decades. Lonely in Los Angeles Dear Lonely in Los Angeles, Gay men are more lonely than straight men.

Many young LGBTQ people hide their authentic selves from friends, family, and classmates before they come out, which is often an incredibly isolating experience. This sense of isolation can be hard to shake off, and it's also easily triggered.

How to Cope When You're Gay and Lonely Everyone feels isolated at some point, but for members of the LGBTQ community, that loneliness hits harder. Hitting the clubs can be a euphoric experience, but it doesn't necessarily lead to long-term satisfaction.

There would never be much conversation—some of these guys were in their mid-to-late thirties, so what would we talk about? So I'd wait for a guy to approach me, and it would probably end with me going back to his flat to have sex. Here he shares his journey to overcome the sense of isolation he felt gay lonely up gay in a small U.

I guess it started when I was a young teenager. I had friends but they were all straight and having relationships. Gay men need positive inspiration and role models, not more negative statements. This carried on until I was 16, when I started going out to gay bars in my hometown.

Gay characters these days are so commonplace they’re even allowed to have flaws. I remember feeling very lonely because no one understood me. This sounds really gross and pervy, but I remember one time we were all hanging out in someone's bedroom and everyone else was making out, doing "couple-y" things.

Wherever you live in the world, however big the city, the LGBTQ community is a disparate one featuring myriad different tribes. Loneliness doesn't discriminate. It isn't always easy to find your niche. Few people are lucky enough to make it through life without feeling isolated at some point.

Indeed, artist Richard Dodwell has recently published an anthology book, Not Herededicated to documenting queer loneliness in all its forms. Back then, no one ever asked for an ID. I'd just sit in a corner feeling unbelievably shy and nervy until I'd drunk enough to get up and maybe sit at the bar.

But I felt like I had to do this—I had to go out.